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Happiness is a state of mind. Specifically, it is a state of “well-being and contentment.”
No matter what you do, no matter the life you have, the riches, the women, the friends, the family, the men, the food, achieving your biggest dreams. Not of them matter if you’re not happy because you will always feel as if something is missing.
Why else do we see the most successful people committing suicide? They are not happy people. They decided to fill that unhappy hole with achievements, property and wealth.
They don’t even want to think of themselves. And eventually, that small hole becomes bigger and eats them up. That’s what sadness and depression do to you. Strive to be happy and every other thing comes naturally. Everyone has a reason to be happy, but not enough reasons not to be.
Being happy most of all is not about who and what you have or where you want to be. You can have a day alone doing nothing productive and still feel happiness. This is the happiness you should strive for because it’s not attached to anything and reflects on everything else.
take away your money, still happy, lose friends, still happy, etc. (you are allowed to feel sad and grief and that’s only human)
Let go of the past:
This is the demon that steals most happiness, the past. People keep dwelling on the past and forget the present and the future. They don’t see happiness even if it’s right in front of them. Their unhappiness doesn’t just stop there, they spread it to people around them.
Whenever they start feeling better it holds them back, it stops them from achieving. You can’t move forward unless you let go. Take responsibility for your life, you have control now. It’s all up to you. The past is gone, you can only learn from it and strive not to repeat the same mistake.
Learn to forgive:
Forgiving people sets you free, not just them. You relieve your mind from dwelling on a small mistake that could develop into hate. Some people have the mentality to forgive people but not forget what happened.
Well, you should forget, it shouldn’t be something you still think about or else you’ve not completely forgiven them. You should take caution in regards to what happened but don’t hold it against them. You’re basically handing your life to them, and blaming others for things that happen to you is not the way to go. Forgive and forget.
Did you know that even when you’re in a bad mood when you fake a smile you feel better? Smiling makes you feel good, it makes people around you feel good and attracts beautiful things your way. Happy people always smile.
Fake it till you make it:
You know how when you tell so much lies you start believing they are true, well whatever you dwell on, you will believe. And if people see you happy, they will reflect that happiness back to you. and whether you notice or not, you automatically become happy
Believe you can:
some of us believe we don’t deserve happiness. That’s not true, everyone can be happy, as far as you set your mind to it. Believe you deserve happiness and never settle for less, you’ll attract good things your way. You’re you and you can be happy irrespective what happened. Don’t blame your mistakes or the people around you. You can only determine your happiness.
If you don’t love or appreciate yourself enough, you can’t find happiness. You will place happiness on things, and nothing lasts forever, not even your stuffed bear that has been with you for 20 years. Be happy with yourself, you are enough, you have to be contented, greed destroys happiness. Your happiness is you. Love yourself.
Improve your relationships:
your relationships shape who you are as a person. Every person you’ve met has impacted your life one way or another. Ditch the face friends, this is 2020, we have left all toxic people in 2019. Surround yourself with people that uplift you, people that are there for you. Love them and let them love you back. Build a relationship with yourself too, make sure you are a great friend to yourself.
Start being happy:
you can’t place your happiness on something. Let me explain. You say I can only be happy if I lose that weigh, I can only be happy if he talks to me, I can only be happy if this, if that. You will realize after that happens that your happiness is short lived and you seek for another reason to be happy, those reasons will keep piling up and will only lead you to a tunnel of disappointments and a depression spiral.
Some very important lessons I’ve learnt on finding happiness I’ve learnt from the book being happy. Apart from the general things that can affect your happiness, if you want to cultivate happiness form within and also apply the tips above, you have to read it because your happiness depends n you and you have to be happy your own way.
On A Final Note:
Start today, wake up and say I am a happy person, I am happy, I reflect happiness around me and get the same in return.
So train yourself, believe in yourself, spread happiness around you, and let go of the past. Your happiness is right under your nose. And when you open your eyes to see it. You will finally see the happiness right in front of you. Feel it.
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